You once said you like to pick my brain, so here you go.
In case you were unaware, life is a series of lessons. It never ends. Once you complete one, a new one appears. If you don’t learn the lesson, it will keep repeating. It will manifest itself no matter what country you’re in. Wherever you go, there you are.
Based on your social media history, I have a strong feeling that you aren’t used to hearing about expansion and the bigger picture with a person you might have romantic feelings for. It’s okay, I’ll give you some time to let this marinate.
It must be a strange feeling to have had sex with a woman who wanted to invest and build, both in you and with you.
It must have felt uncomfortable to have a woman be proud of you and openly post once in awhile with you, the person with character development and grit, and not just products of your purchasing power in various locales.
I’ll bet it really hit a nerve for a woman to go out of her way to put time and energy into making sure you are spoiled too.
A fun little something for you: investing in a romantic prospect is also a little bit similar into investing into stocks. Pick a good one and keep putting into it, and you’re hitting it big.
Now, by good one you obviously want one who’s attractive to you as well as has potential. I don’t know how you felt of me sexually, so the choices you made might very well have been wise for you if I was not sexually pleasing to you.
Strangely, I say potential because no one is perfect, we are all continually working on ourselves, and we are all guilty of our own self-sabotaging ways that we do through projection in a relationship.
When I say potential, you need to make sure they are willing to evolve. Unfortunately, it’s not all expensive outings and gourmet food. Sometimes you have to have self-reflection, accountability, and heaven forbid, the ability the apologize.
Not to worry, though. If you find that you picked one that couldn’t help you with your vision, respect your basic personal boundaries, or one to just be happy for you and let you shine, you can just drop them off at the main entrance gate where you first found them.
It’s important to let people shine. People have little sparks inside of them. There’s all sorts of little things that keep this spark going. People have all sorts of little hobbies, kinks, love languages, what have you. You don’t have to have the same ones as them–you just have to know theirs and show that you care about it. It’s not a one size fits all kind of thing.
Also, because in life we are all on our own personal journeys, there are little events/achievements/milestones that don’t mean a lot to us but are monumental to another person. It’s important to consider your reaction, as you are not an island, and your words and actions can make someone’s spark into a fire, or you could just extinguish it completely.
Please, don’t snuff someone’s spark. Yes, even if the person is not for you. Yes, even if you see them as less desirable and less worthy because their genetic makeup is different from what you really want. Let people not meant for you have their little sparks appreciated elsewhere by those who think they absolutely glisten.
Because there is no perfect person, it’s important to leave some room for human error. Whoever you choose is going to make mistakes from time to time. Acknowledge that we are supposed to continually evolve. Take a deep breath and let people have the space to become a better version of themselves. Yes, even if it’s annoying.
It’s important that when you have someone, you try to make them smile. It’s crucial that when you see their biggest flaws and insecurities that you build them up. Please don’t ever go out of your way to make the person you choose cry.
When two men compete, the man who wins is the one who reassures her on the phone at 2am that she is beautiful when she feels unpretty and unworthy.
When two women compete, the woman who wins is the one who upon acknowledging that she has an opponent, bows gracefully, wishes her opponent well, and books a ticket across the globe.
The person who is the scariest is not the one who lifts the heaviest or yells the loudest on the phone. It’s the one who has been punched in the face by God himself and has absolutely nothing to lose.
Appreciate the good that your person comes with. Accept that they won’t always have the answers. Always remember that time is the most priceless thing of all, and be cautious with it because you never know when your time is up.
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